Often, adult children are the first to realize that a parent is not managing the day-to-day issues at home as well as they used to. It’s obvious to you that dad should not be climbing a ladder to hang holiday lights, or that it’s time for mom to stop driving, but maybe they don’t see it that way.
Change is difficult for most of us, and it’s not always easy for seniors to admit they may benefit from a little help. Your parents have been independent all their lives, and accepting home care services means admitting that they are no longer as capable of caring for themselves as they used to.
Involve Your Loved One
It is important to involve your elderly loved one in the process. Ask them about the things they may need help with throughout the day. There’s no getting around the fact that certain activities become more difficult as we age. It’s not a criticism; it’s simply a fact.
Remind them that you are on their side and that you both want the same thing: for them to be safe and remain independent for as long as possible.
Start Small
Start small, and ask your loved one to “give it a try” without any commitment. Often, having a home caregiver in for a few hours once a week can provide the comfort level your loved one needs, and will make them more open to building up to increased assistance as it becomes necessary.
Help Them Find An Option That's Best For Them
Point out that the cost of a homecare worker may be less expensive than receiving care at an assisted living facility. Or, it may only be temporary while they are recovering from an illness or injury, and will keep them living in their home longer and more independently.
Their accountant or financial planner may also be able to assure them that they can afford help.
Give Them Time & Be Patient
Don’t expect your loved one to warm to the idea after a single conversation. Start early (before a major health crisis) and give them time to get used to the idea of in-home care.
Note: If your loved one has dementia, please seek professional assistance from a doctor or other senior expert. Logic often will not work and other strategies must be employed.